Time or time bombs

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There were a lot of threats of violence on school campuses last week. Threats written on walls, threats on social media and threats made to students, from students. School districts dealt with the threats, some in a proper manner, some did not. Some reported them instantly, some did not. Regardless, of how they were made or how they were reported, lives were changed.

We have to find a way to tell these students that are making threats, no matter how trivial or comical they may think they are, threats of violence will not be taken as anything other than a threat. We have to find a way to tell our students that there will be consequences. And there will be consequences.

Ask the students who now have criminal records if there are consequences. Ask the students who have spent time in a juvenile detention center if there are consequences. Ask these kids if they wish they had not made their mistake.

On the other side, what about the schools who do not report these incidents properly or instantly? What about school districts who put more emphasis on image instead of safety. What about school districts who ignore state statutes, Texas Education Agency policies, or even common sense in the name of protecting their name or covering for someone in the “good ol’ buddy” system?

Let me be plain here. Whether the threat to students is one of violence or one where an adult teacher takes advantage of a student in a sexual manner, each instance is a threat to student safety. Each are mistakes that should be dealt with swiftly, and harshly.

Some mistakes stay with us for a long time. There should be consequences.

There should also be a more proactive, organized movement to stop all of it from happening.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “it takes a village?” I think that statement may be truer now than ever before. There was a time when if a kid was out doing something wrong or somewhere they shouldn’t be, you could bet that word was going to get back to mama and they were going to be dealt with. There were going to be consequences.

Those days seem to be fading away into an oblivion fueled by the “I don’t want to get involved” and the “it isn’t my problem” and even the “my kid is a good kid, he would never do that” syndrome.

Back in the day, the rule for most was, if you get in trouble at school, you better be ready to get it again when you get home. No doubt, those days have faded away.

So, where is the problem? What is the solution? How do we turn the tide? The answers seem so basic, so simple, so…old school.

Spend time with your kids. Take an interest in their lives other than buying the new Iphone or the trendy jeans and shoes. Invest in their lives more than your 401k.

Read to your little ones at night. Cuddle up on the couch with a classic book instead of the TV remote and reality shows. Sit with them at the ballpark for little league sports. Have a game of catch in the yard after you get home from work. Tell them you love them…every single day, every single hour, every time you can. Take them to church. Pray with them.

Somebody told me this week that these kids that are making these threats just crave attention. While that is no excuse, that could be an accurate statement. Another person I heard stated that school shooters are almost always young men who need a dad influence in their lives, boys starving for another man to show them some love and attention.

What a horrible testimony to a culture that has taught men that the important thing in life is working as many hours as possible to bring home that check. There is truth to this rationale. I know that to be true because I myself have a son. I only now see my mistake.

All of us men should be singing, “open the eyes of my heart Lord.”

In my opinion, we don’t have an epidemic of violence. Our kids are not all of a sudden infected with some virus that makes them want to shoot people. The epidemic is a sickness born not on the air, but in our hearts.

The problem is a falling away from a lifestyle that once was based on parents spending time with their kids. Family dinners spent with all gathered around a table talking about the day have gone the way of fast food, disjointed schedules, video games and television replacing the dining table, and conversations replaced by text messages.

The family unit itself has evolved as well. Where the norm used to be mom, dad, kids it is now single parent families, switching the kids out on weekends, and holidays where kids have to either choose between one house or the other or make the rounds.

The problem is still the same and the answers are still the same. All the answers involve time.

Make time for your kids. Make time to be at the ball games, the ballet practices, the school assemblies and report card day. Make time to talk to them, pray with them, and go to church with them.

Above all, make time to say, “I love you.”

1 Peter 4:8 “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”

Love can also stop a sin from happening. It is NOT too late. Make the time.

 

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